at night, when it's time for bed, all the worries ebb and flow in my mind in a slew of cyclical torment that it disrupts my quality sleep. i need to learn to stop worrying and embrace the whole affair with testosterone-driven nonchalance. i've been to the shrink, and the meds he's prescribed worked, well, at least for the first two weeks. but now, here i am up and awake at 2 in the morning experiencing a case of deja vu. any other remedies out there?
on a side-note: has anyone noticed the strong winds these past two days? or is it me just worrying too much?
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The strong winds are real. Not part of your imagination. It was reported in the news.
oh dear. dun think so much k. maybe talk to ur frens about ur major worries? works for me.
since the winds are especially strong, i'm sending a lil prayer in the wind for you, may u sleep well tonight.
cheers
K.Plum
I'm also having e same problem as u and am gg to see the doc nxt week... :(
I can understand how it feels...
Take care!
P.S. Yes it is windy, not just you.
"who of you by worrying can add add a single hour to his life?" (Matthew 6:27)
so bro, do not worry, enjoy life!
any thing bother you recently? share with us here or take some chocolate. *wink*
the wind is not a sign of doomday =)
It's cause by the Sumatra Squall according to newspaper. Last year happen once as well. *pat pat*
you can start by trying not to use computer before sleep, and drink some warm milk and eat more fish, that will help with the anxiety issue.
i'm no doc, but this works well for me
your scenario is common for every1. once in a while we do worry something, specially when you are emotionally down. however, it will go away when you find something to focus on. of course, it will come back again once in awhile. try to take it easy and face it, u will be fine. ^o^
u are right about the strong winds. u are not being worry too much but just being sentimental. therefore, your emotion does affected by the changed in the natural. if you are stay in a 4 seasons country, the feeling will be even more stronger.
don't worry too much, u are the lucky and fortunate 1 when compare to a billion people in the world who don’t have enough food to eat and proper clothes to wear, right?
des, if there is a chance, go to those developing countries and look at the people there who try so hard to be survived. then u will get more ideas what is life and will appreciate what you have now. ^0^
~no name~
Medication only helps alter your chemistry, temporarily. I would advise you to go off it.
The thing that may truly need altering, is your perspective of life. Live in the present. Be happy, it's just as simple as making a decision to be unhappy or upset by something. Think about it, we can choose our emotions and reactions to aggravations.
Do some exercise and get your natural endorphins high, man! Take care!
Meditation helps better than prescribed medicines.
Maybe you should give it a try.
I suppose this happens 2 everyone. There will come upon a time when one ponder over their own mortality.
same here U_U It's been a month or so to me. I wake up in the middle of my sleep, usually dusk. I'm thinking too much U_U. I hope you'll be fine soon. Try no to think too much and tell yourself things do happen for a reason.
Hey dude, here's a tip to sleeping well I read from a health article.
Just blank your mind and focus on your breathing, inhaling and exhaling, this helps to suppress your blood pressure levels and hopefully bring you into dreamworld. :)
Hope it helps!
hey...aging is part and parcel of our lives and that we should know it's inevitable. What's important is that we maintain a young, open and cheerful heart which I'm sure you're maintaining it.. =) don't worry so much des...You're forever young.... =)
Hey bro,your sleeplessness is due to overwhelming worries on your mind..try thinking of happy stuffs, may ease your worries...
Do not worry over things that happened...cos believe u will solve it eventually...
Do not worry over things that have yet to happen, cos they may not happen at all...
hope u have a good sleep!!
ah des,
are u ok or not?
let meet up for drinks.
i buy u chendol ok?
heheheee :D
cheers lah :P
km
keep this in mind:
"take life easy cause no one is gonna get out of it alive"
and now, sleep. cause hey, no matter how much you worry, you're still gonna end up in the dust, so might as well relax, chill and enjoy (:
you seem like a nice guy, take care.
-random passerby
Yes, meditation works!
I find this audio track works too.
http://www.imeem.com/jukeboxmusic3/music/0pXSWZIR/dr-jeffrey-thompson-sleepy-rain-album-version/
You can read more about the technique used in the recording by googling "Jeffrey Thompson".
Same here. I am very good at worrying as well. It is close to 2am now and I am still awake and this occur every day even though i have to wake up at 7am for work...argh
Do let me know if you find any cure on your insomnia. I want to know too.
Take care
MM
soothing music with some aromatherapy? or maybe u just need someone to pat you to sleep, hah
your worries are not much of a worry when compared to that of the world? stay cheerful and don't think too much :D
i remember something somewhere like "Worry is like a rocking chair--it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere.” Let the worries fly away with the winds, love life yeah? :D
have a great weekend
(wick) it was? i scrolled through the papers the following day and nothing was mentioned.
(kp) i have a friend working as a councellor, but alas, he's currently in bkk. besides, i wouldn't want to osmose my negative aura to my friends.
(oceanic) tell me about how it was like in person the next time we meet. it's been quite a while hey. =]
(ck) long time no see. =] apparently, it's strong winds around the island then, since it's not just me.
(rex) in english literary terms, basically, it means, worrying doesn't solve any issues. live and let live, and be enjoy every hour of your lives. thanks for the words of advice. =]]
(cedric) i use the computer sparingly, like only 30 mins ... of every hour. yikes, i am computer-holic, now that you mentioned.
(no name) u are right. i need to find something to focus on to get my mind off worrying unnecessary and probably inevitable stuff. thanks for the word up.
(raygreen) i will try to taper off these medications in time, but at the moment, because i am still under his consult, i can't cut down or off entirely the dosage. perhaps in another month's time, i hope. i do exercise, they only thing it does is making me tired.
(gary.c) meditation? might give that a shot too.
(wick) yeah, like what's our purpose in all of this? and why us? and why never forever but impermanence. questions like that.
(anon) hope everything turns out right for you. there are a couple of advices here that are quite useful. ^^
(ivan_ee) it is, to some degree, a form of meditation right? hmm, will try that tonight, and comment on it later.
(jnkl) yeah, my heart is forever young!! ^^
(chaos) thanks for the encouraging words. it kinda opened a sliver of enlightenment for me. hugs. =]
(km) a drink? why chendol? haa. but still, thanks nevertheless. =]
(random passerby) the sentence sounds like a double entendre, but both ways, taken literally or figuratively, kinda means we're doomed. sounds kinda fatalistic, doesn't it?
(raygreen) thanks once again. i am having a hard time registering with imeem too, but once i am done, and give it a shot tonight, together with the "empty mind out" technique, i'll keep you guys posted on the outcome.
(nic) maybe a nicely drawn picture of the scenary might do the trick? *winks*
(mm) mine could be due to the very reason that i am turning 30 or more. i think it's good to uncover the true reason of your worries and attack it straight front. i am trying to come to terms with it, but it will take a while. meanwhile, some of the nice folks here have offered different techniques you could try to employ. hope it works for you somehow or another. =]
there are so many things that can interrupt sleep. environment, lights, sounds, temperature, pillow comfort etc. so must get those fixed to your liking.
then the worrying part and the incessant thoughts .. this one is quite tough but can be conquered. mind over matter... dont worry about things you cannot control. no point. try to move as little as possible and get into a nice comfy position. breathe slowly and think about the wonderful rejuvenation your body and cells are getting...
meds, like previous blogger said, is very temporary and your quality of sleep is not restful. must ween yourself off them. if not next time when u need surgery (touch wood), the anaesthetician will have a damn hard time putting u to sleep...
so wat to do babe? warm milk and bananas contain natural chemicals that encourage sleep. also, and this is probably the most important part, the moment you start to yawn, sometimes as early as 10pm or 11pm, dont fight it. it is your body clock telling you, "koon-time". so take a nice warm bath, get a nice lavender scent going in your room or pillow, and rest.
from what i see in your blog, you currently have a lifestyle which encourages late nights on weekends. So you may wanna try to keep boogie nites to a minimum as you ween off the meds.
no matter how soothing is the "sleep" music, it tends to keep me awake coz i am quite aural. sometimes i wish i can get a soothing massage as i go to bed but of course it is not practical. some guys engage in the 5-finger technique to achieve post coital relaxation but again this is very individual (and more common than most would admit).
if you hit the sack at 11pm and wake at 6am, you still clock a decent 7hrs.
keep day time naps to a minimum timespan, not more than 45mins...
back to the many thoughts with no answers, such as aftermath of afterlife... depends on your beliefs babe. for me, live in the present. be good. be responsible. be kind. accept the given situation and improve what you can control. be thankful for what you have. if we go to heaven, trust there will be good company. if we go to hell, i am sure we will see some pple we know. haha.
once u are at peace with yourself and who you are, then it is very easy for others to be truly attracted to you. sleeping with a partner does add a sense of security. meanwhile get loads of pillows.
lastly, enjoy your sleep...
there are so many things that can interrupt sleep. environment, lights, sounds, temperature, pillow comfort etc. so must get those fixed to your liking.
then the worrying part and the incessant thoughts .. this one is quite tough but can be conquered. mind over matter... dont worry about things you cannot control. no point. try to move as little as possible and get into a nice comfy position. breathe slowly and think about the wonderful rejuvenation your body and cells are getting...
meds, like previous blogger said, is very temporary and your quality of sleep is not restful. must ween yourself off them. if not next time when u need surgery (touch wood), the anaesthetician will have a damn hard time putting u to sleep...
so wat to do babe? warm milk and bananas contain natural chemicals that encourage sleep. also, and this is probably the most important part, the moment you start to yawn, sometimes as early as 10pm or 11pm, dont fight it. it is your body clock telling you, "koon-time". so take a nice warm bath, get a nice lavender scent going in your room or pillow, and rest.
from what i see in your blog, you currently have a lifestyle which encourages late nights on weekends. So you may wanna try to keep boogie nites to a minimum as you ween off the meds.
no matter how soothing is the "sleep" music, it tends to keep me awake coz i am quite aural. sometimes i wish i can get a soothing massage as i go to bed but of course it is not practical. some guys engage in the 5-finger technique to achieve post coital relaxation but again this is very individual (and more common than most would admit).
if you hit the sack at 11pm and wake at 6am, you still clock a decent 7hrs.
keep day time naps to a minimum timespan, not more than 45mins...
back to the many thoughts with no answers, such as aftermath of afterlife... depends on your beliefs babe. for me, live in the present. be good. be responsible. be kind. accept the given situation and improve what you can control. be thankful for what you have. if we go to heaven, trust there will be good company. if we go to hell, i am sure we will see some pple we know. haha.
once u are at peace with yourself and who you are, then it is very easy for others to be truly attracted to you. sleeping with a partner does add a sense of security. meanwhile get loads of pillows.
lastly, enjoy your sleep...
Guess its pretty normal when someone reaches or reaching 30... take it easy pal
hahahhaha.... well brother, it's always good to worry about our own agings ya... we always wish to grow up faster when we are young, but once we have reached 30, we start to think about aging or even worry about it...it's just another stage/level/chapter of life... =p take it easy... and you will feel better XD
anyway, when are you heading to malacca huuh? i gotta go to sg to get back my stuff from my cousin >.< so i may stay over a night at any backpacker around bugis... and we could meet up for a meal or what... wonder you still remember what you have promised or not @_<
Don't worry too much now...there's someone here who's reaching 30 sooner than you, remember :)
30 just a number...u look way less...so wory not,bro!
ah des,
u know chendol meh? heheheheee :D
ya hoh, i really forget abt yr bird'day gift leh :P how? thats why caused u cant sleep every night ya ?? faintttt. . . . :S
miss u truly ok !!
km
Oh dear....hugz hugz... plant gentle kiss on ur forehead... everything will be fine kz...
hmmz... don know why there's a nagging tot that u r juz finding a reason to go for a holiday??!! hahahahahaha
Can meet for lunch... my treat =)
C.A.D
oh des, i really how u feel. i used to feel that i dun want to spread my negative aura. but by sharing wit ur frens, u will heal. at least u have the support and love of ur frens if they know. in this world we can't go at it alone.
cheers
Kooky.P
You worry about aging because you have no one to grow old with you. Its rather scary to age alone...
Dun worry ok. you are not alone in this. Explain to you more when we meet up ok?
(jugofjugs) boogying nights? i have kept them to a minimum already, am trying to revert back to an ordinary sleep pattern. but what one of them has suggested, which was listening to the imeem.com music previously, was quite useful apparently. but thanks for the advice, will try warm milk with chocolate, not banana though, cos i don't really like the fruit of spores. =]
(anon) it's the quarter life crises, ain't it?
(fufu) finally you're back. okok, text me when you are in town. anyways, i lost my phone, as blogged, so text me with your name yeah. =]
(chaos) what's your magic number then?
(km) haa, thanks for the misses, and no worries about the birthday gift, i will get it from you someday. hehe.
(c.a.d.) no! it's not a reason that i wanna go for a holiday, haha, but i am going for another break hopefully, business wise this time round.
(kp) true true, anyways, this forum is equally therapeutic for me as well. hope it worked wonders for you too. =]
(ac) so you share the same sentiments too?
I think you have quite a lot of tension in you. But seriously, there isn't a need to worry about aging 'cos it's a natural cause for everyone, not only you. We're aging every second so it's like so normal, ya.
The issue you have to worry probably is how to better plan ahead of time? There are uncertainties and lots of them but we can always embrace each new day and look forward to it. Plan ahead what you gonna do tomorrow, for the week and maybe even months ahead and anticipate the events to come.
Well, maybe you can then convert the tension in you to more of an anticipation and looking forward to something new happening?
Try to maintain a healthy lifestyle as it really helps you to stay positive. I mean less smoking (or even no smoking), more fruits and veges and less alcohol. It really helps. Meet new people too! Meeting new people may help you to see things at different perspectives and change your mindset a bit. =)
Hope these help. Take care. =)
Just happen to see this passage. Let me share it with you.
"Happiness doesn't exist on the far side of distant mountains. It is within you, yourself. Not you, however, sitting in idle passivity. It is to be found in the vibrant dynamism of your own life as you struggle to challenge and overcome one obstacle after another, as you clamber up a perilous ridge in pursuit of that which lies beyond."
Find more challenges in your life and work towards them.
がんばってねDesmondさん。
Read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. It should answer questions, and then some.
omg..des ur entries always have so many comments..and I'm just one of them! hahaa..tk cr eh.. =)
love your dessy, no matter what. =]
did you know that during bad economic times also affect our moods too? too bad you can't do anything about that, but you can surely liven your mood up by ben and jerry's? hehe.
(763092) happy thoughts, think happy thoughts. =] i think i felt the second comment you left was pretty helpful. thanks a lot. by the way, if my hiragana didn't fail me, that would translate to "ganbatte desmond-san"?
(timothy) will do, thanks. keep you posted on my tots on it. =)
(jnkl) i guess it's just because you guys are nice and concerned, that's all. =]
(tyc) aww. thanks for the love. =]
(anony) haha, yeah, huge heaps of cookie dough always does the trick for me. just not that kind to my obliques though, haha.
yo, I had the sleeping problems too, I can lie on bed for 3 hours and my mind is so awake. so share my tips with ya
My doc gave me some flu pills to make me drowsy, but I don't think it good to have them every night. tranquilizer and sleeping pill is too heavy for the body.
I bought 'deep sleep' essential oil (chamomile) from body shop and spray a little on my eye mask,
Every time when you know your mind is thinking of ben & jerry ~ hah Stop it by focus on breathing
*practice & focus on deep long breath which makes ur heart beat goes slower and calm.
*Stretching on ur bed helps to loosen your body and you get relaxed and fall asleep easier.
*No caffeine after 4-5pm, depends on caf tolerance
*No milk before sleep (it worsen, busted)
hope that helps , and keep blogging
Gosh I hate the life stuff that clogs into your brain when you're about to hit an eternal slumber!
We SERIOUSLY need Mr. Sandman to dispel those! D=
Take it in your stride; Death is an extension in which suffering do not touch; this moment is beautiful.
hey des, when the heck is/was your birthday anyway? I know you told me once, but in keeping with my character, I've completely forgotten. :)
(steve) it's the sixth may.
cool, not enough ppl read that book in Singapore. most just dismiss it a new age spiritual self-help, haha. but its a simple message, and a singular one too. Keep me updated!
this is weird, my bday is also may 6th. Tauruses tend to be really reflective, esp near our bdays, haha!
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